It’s easy to point fingers

1“Do not judge, or you too will be judged. 2For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. 3“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 4How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? 5You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.

Matthew 7 : 1-5

Phone goes off in the middle of test, everyone looks up because of the distraction.  No one says a word.  They just think it.  You know there was an agreement signed stating the person will be kicked out of the test if that happens.  And then they go about their classes texting and chatting being thankful they weren’t the one caught.

Gun shots ring down the hall, everyone runs and hide.  All say again, “But, it’s against the law.”  Political official gets caught in an illegal act.  Everyone says, “But, he does so many good things and blames someone or something else for the action.”  Media blames one side or another for what happens.  Everyone looks the other way blaming each other.  “That’s just fake news”, they say.

So many of us today look around and blame someone else for our own failings, our  child’s failings, our friend’s failings, and for society’s failing.  But, are we looking at our failings?  Was what we did wrong?  What are we allowing to happen that we could easily stop just by taking a moment and preforming a positive action?

Blaming one another does nothing more than distract away from the true issue.  You can’t change the past.  You can only change the future.  Blaming the phone because it went off in the middle of the test is not accepting responsibility for your actions.  Blaming the gun is not allowing the person holding the gun to accept responsibility for his/her action.  Blaming someone’s past for the present actions of the person is scapegoating.  Blame needs to be accepted by the person who performed the wronged action.

Until we pull the plank out of our eyes for our own failures and stop blaming each other for each other’s failings, nothing will ever be accomplished.  Whatever you see your sibling doing which is just as wrong as what you are doing means you should stop your action.  Correct your own action first.

Adults take responsibility for actions.  Children do not.  They have to be taught.  So media, politician, and everyone, please let us start to act like grown ups.  I am so tired of everyone blaming everyone else.  Look I screwed up.  I admit it.  I know I will continue to make mistakes.  That is part of life.  But, for me to blame you or someone else or something else for my failings means I will get no where.

I want to grow as a human being.  That means I will need to look deeply within myself and acknowledge that I am not perfect, and I make mistakes.  That doesn’t mean that you need to lord it over me because I failed.  It means I need to get up acknowledge my mistakes and work to correct it.

Winston Churchill said, ” the price of greatness is responsibility over each of your thoughts.”  Let’s become great!


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